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Thursday, July 24, 2008 --- 78 days ago http://www.norwichbulletin.com/lifestyles/x544092844/Carolyn-Hax-Mom-husband-gan
 Adapted from a recent online discussion. DEAR CAROLYN: I’m about to turn 30, I see a doctor regularly, and I am, in her words, “in excellent health” — cholesterol, heart, blood pressure, yadda yadda. However, I have gained 15 pounds in the past three years. I also have gotten married, and my parents, who used to live overseas, have returned to the area. My parents, especially my mom, are constantly jibing at me about my weight. My mom has even started e-mailing my husband about it, telling him he “has to do something.” She claims she is worried about my health, despite the fact I have told her my doctor’s opinion. I know she is obsessed with what other people think. I’ve always noticed that about her and thought it sad, but generally just reacted by being a happy person and ignoring her when she obsesses. However, her e-mails are driving my husband crazy. And since he’s not happy I’ve gained weight, her e-mails are becoming an issue between us. I feel that, as long as I am eating well and staying active, I should be left alone. I think my metabolism changed in my late 20s, and that’s life. I refuse to court anorexia or take diet pills. I’m also sick of sometimes allowing my mom and husband to make me feel bad about myself, and wondering why they are doing this to me. In fact, I’m crying right now. If I could magically lose 15 pounds, that would be great. But this is me. What can I do to make this situation stop? VA. DEAR VA.: I kn ... |
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